Saturday, May 29, 2010
Friday, May 28, 2010
She's Baaaaccckkkkk !
It's going to take a while to get all caught up...I'm making progress tho...Peggy Sue over at Space Paws got a forever home...Melly is getting along nicely with Scarlett...The adorable snorgable Anderson Erickson Tuxies are tooo f'g cute for words...I want them worse than I wanted Orson...(!)..I've been taking one blog at a time and trying to skim them..all y'all have no idea how many blogs I follow on a daily basis...I have a system...read " 9 Chickweed Lane" on Yahoo since our local rat bastard paper no longer carries it...GRRRR,.....then my blogs..then Tasty Kitchen to see what recipes I cannot live without and must torment Lady L with...and so on while pondering the daily post here.
And yes...I do this from work...don't ask...they don't mind and I am very respectful and mindful of the illusion of privacy , the innertubes and the workplace.
Life goes on.
We are both beyond tired and I have asked SU to stay home this weekend rather than go to the Crazy Cajun's nephews crawfish boil in Brenham.
Any other time I'd be saying.." Go....go...you need gas money ?...GO !" whilst I bask in the peace and quiet...but there is too much to do.
We've done zip nada since the day after Mothers Day.
Barely done laundry.
Ditto groceries, Petsmart, drycleaners, bathrooms...hoovering...sheets...it all went kaput when his mother was admitted to ICU.
Ordinarily , I'd just be me and try to do it all myself , especially with a three day weekend, but I have finally grasped that if there is this much to do and it really needs to be done that I need to allow myself to ask for help.
SU has always offered to help and does both of the bathrooms when needed so it's not like he is all Cro Magnon about it all.
When we were first married mumble years ago ( 20+) I'd do it all in almost a full day...and then because I'd ignore the polio and back issue...I'd not be able to walk the next day.
As time went on, I loosened up.
I am fierce about the kitchen and hoover at least once a week..6 cats ya know...and love the new carpet cleaner...but if the beds don't get square cornered and there are dishes drying in the rack..it's okay.
Bathrooms get scrubbed every other weekend...most of the time.
And of course...I know how to close a deal.
" Honey..if you stay home and help me...yes...you CAN go to the Ice House for however long you want too."
My veteran has more than earned it...especially this Memorial Day.
Please..have a safe weekend...
Sunday, May 23, 2010
When Gordy and I walked in for the family viewing , it was tiny..I avoided the open casket because the first and only previous experience was 29 years ago with my mother ..and Pol don't play that.
I have great peripheral vision.
They just kept coming in.
Droves of them .
We've been married 22 years and there were cousins out the wazzou.
They need name tags.
I was okay as long as he was.....yeah.
We need stock in Kimberly Clark.
Thank you Charlie ( Crazy Cajun) for being there for all of the last 10 days.
It was only 10 days.
Thank you Shellie ( Mrs. Crazy Cajun ) for getting me the hell out of the visitation after 3 hours to go get pizza and chocolate.
Thank you both for dinner and war stories.
I'll see you in the morning.
Friday, May 21, 2010
Thursday, May 20, 2010
She was moved out of ICU on Monday into a private room and " seemed " to be doing a little better. She had even eaten a bit which was huge for her.
Tuesday she seemed tired but we took it as it was...she was comfortable.
Yesterday, Gordon got a call before noon that she had taken a turn and to get there. He was composed as he called me to tell me but I knew it was super human focusing to get him there so I rather suspected.
She had a massive bladder and kidney infection and as the day worn on she began to shut down. While not technically in a coma, the doctors told us that there was nothing more that they could do and hospice was called in.
She was completely non responsive and my father in law spoke to me of how he knew that his beloved wife would not want to go on this way.
Sadly, today is my husbands 60'th birthday and while he is just...yeah...it is the greatest gift that his mother could give him.
She is in a better place , pain free and no longer suffering as she did.
I lost the kindest woman I have ever known and I hope she knows that I loved her very much.
I promise Mother , I will take care of your son.
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
Monday, May 17, 2010
Cook Time: 20 Minutes
Frozen, Unbaked Dinner Rolls
Melted Butter, Regular, Salted
Fresh Rosemary, Coarsely Chopped
Coarse Sea Salt
Spray a small iron skillet with cooking spray (or coat with olive oil). Place frozen rolls in the skillet, leaving plenty of room for rising. Cover and allow to rise for several hours.
After rising, brush rolls with melted butter.
Sprinkle on chopped rosemary. Brush with additional butter. Sprinkle with coarse sea salt.
Bake according to roll package directions (usually 400 degrees for 15 to 20 minutes), until rolls are a deep golden brown on top.
Sunday, May 16, 2010
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
Bear in mind Gordy is the better part of crazy.
We had not told anyone that we were going to get married because of all things...he was still technically married to Marcia ..aka First Wife or FW.
Hey..it's taken me 20 years to not go off in a psycho bitch tirade about the FW so give me some credit..m'kay ?
Gordy and FW never really had a marriage...it lasted 6 months and basically was due to her thinking that marrying some hapless idgit ( sorry honey..) would make her drug dealing boyfriend in Austin come to heel.
Yeah..she was that way.
Anyhoo....they never got around to the divorce bit after more than a few years because neither expected to remarry.
Anyhoo...He and I had been bopping around Gunspoint Mall shopping and after reentering the freeway, I suddenly needed to pee....I assume beers had been consumed somewhere along the days events.
Groom to be says no worries..he knows where to go,
The next thing I know we are pulling up to a residential area I've never seen..followed by a driveway also unknown.
At this point , I am torn between being completely and utterly appalled and needing to hit the facilities.
And thus ...I got to meet my future sister in law.
Bear in mind I am in my beloved Black Sabbath Tee and black bluejeans...no..not goth...just uber cute in my younger and thinner days.
After a short trip down the hall...introductions were made.
I must have had a really funny look on my face over all of this stupidity..yeah honey...not the way I had envisioned meeting your sister BTW !
After mercifully brief chit chat ..Charlotte says that they are going to her Church's Oyster Fry...blah blah fishcakes.
It was decided that we would meet there....and again unknownst to me...Gordy had known that his parents were I believe at Lake Conroe fishing ..so he decided on the qt that we are going to go by there and see if they want to join in what by now is just super crazy cool tons of fun....NOT.
Off we go..me still being clueless thinking that we were on the way to the Church gig...and I am of course praying for a beer or 6 to calm my now nuclear detonated nerves.
So here we are now in BFE Lake Conroe...hey I am a city girl...so the BFE is appropriate.
By now it has finally dawned on me that Gordy is making a tactical strike and that I am about tho meet his parents for the very first time.
It has also dawned on me that the engagement might be of record brevity since I might just have to kill him dead.
He has the good sense not to introduce me as his fiancee..thank you Gaia but makes some smart ass remark to his folks that I can't pass up ..so demure lil ol me says to his father....
"I'm gonna beat the crap out of him..you want to hold his head or his feet ?"
Pop bust a gut laughing and said I was ok.
We are now living together...which his parents sincerely and strongly disapprove of due to their religious convictions.
We are in fact living next door to them in the house Gordon has been renting.
I have often wondered just how many gals the folks saw slip out of Gordy and his roommates house in the early am.
In all fairness to the folks, I am sure they thought I was just another one.
We are by now engaged but can't really tell anyone because of his status with FW and the fact that ALL of our friends would think it's too soon.
WAY to soon....like a month .
His fathers retirement party was at their church and so off we go.
As the party goes on...at the point where everyone is sitting in a big circle with the guest of honor in the middle...introductions are made.
As Pop gets to me he gets a kind of grin on his face and announces....
" And this young lady, I have just been informed by my son is my future daughter in law....and I don't even know her last name !"
Yep...that's how we roll .
Personally I think Gordy panicked at my mentioning of an engagement party ...but it all worked out.
The girl in the Black Sabbath Tee has kept their baby boy on the mostly straight and narrow for 23 years.
Memories I now treasure.
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
We have a rule , you see.
In times of crisis, only one of us at a time may freak out.
We are waiting for the call on his mother.
Even the doctors know that she will not be leaving ICU.
She has told them all and her husband and son...enough.
She is tired.
Tired of the cancer.
Tired of congestive heart failure.
Tired of a colostomy bag.
Tired of being tired.
Tired of being tired.
So like he did for me with my father, I wait with him for the call.
Letting him ramble on, about nothing and everything .
We've spent the better part of 2 years , watching the decline...realizing that indeed , it is what it is.
Swimming upstream against his family who hope against hope that Mother will bounce back...
Baptists do that.
Agnostics do not.
I am at best agnostic.
With Wicca tendencies.
I will take care of him as he has done for me.
He is a good son.
He is a better son than he will ever realize, no matter how often he has been told otherwise.
He is the most level headed, honest person I know..and far better than he will ever realize.
His mother knows his worth.
It's not payback.
It's respect for all the players in the drama we now have to deal with.
We wait for the call.
Friday, May 07, 2010
Wednesday, May 05, 2010
Tuesday, May 04, 2010
Today is also International Star Wars Day.
Below are some of my favorite quotes:
" The force is what gives a Jedi his power ."
" I find your lack of faith disturbing".
"If there is a bright center to the universe, then you 're on the planet it's furthest from."
" We seem to be made to suffer. It is our lot in life."
"Truly wonderful, the mind of a child is."
" Size matters not. Look at me . Judge me by my size , do you ?"
" The dark side crowds everything. Impossible to see the future is."
Do you have any favorite quotes ?